People seek out counseling during all stages of 'relationship'. Some are in the early stage. They struggle to forge deeper intimacy now that the
'honeymoon' is over. Some find that decades together doesn't guarantee happiness and are questioning whether to stay or leave.
If you are in a relationship which falls somewhere in-between, I invite you to heed the following advice.
First ask yourself- Are you truly committed to your partnership and to doing the work it will take to get the closeness/intimacy back?
If you can answer yes to this question, well, keep reading:
All relationships are 'living' things growing strong, close, or weak, and distant at any given time. The couples I see who are most at risk of relationship failures are frankly, people who are unable to communicate with respect.
AND I'm sure it comes as no surprise that the most difficult part of communication and the part which can develop a more loving connection between partners, is LISTENING.
Here's more good news: one partner alone can begin to build a closer
relationship by using a simple communication technique.
This is not as easy as it may sound, because it's an exercise which succeeds only if you are able to suspend blame, finger-pointing, and resentment.